Who are you?
I’m quite sure it’s inevitable that everyone will have at least one identity crisis in their lifetime. Some may lose themselves in a relationship, or in their work, or in some kind of false identity they’ve build to protect themselves or to use for approval. I’m also quite sure that reading what I have just said about “losing themselves in a false identity” will strike the fear of god into many people reading this. I’m quite sure of this because I know very well that not really knowing who you are is bloody terrifying. Trust me because I went mental on several different occasions. I have been there and there isn’t any shame in it.
It’s very intimidating to those who don’t know who they truly are to be around someone who knows very well who they are. If you’re sure of yourself and your identity, people who aren’t so sure will be intimidated. It doesn’t mean that anything is wrong with you. It means that you trigger them because you make them question themselves. It means that you’re grown. Never apologise for how far you’ve come. Empathise with those who are intimidated by you.
I unintentionally intimidate a lot of people I cross paths with simply because I speak my truth and live authentically. In the past I’ve felt really bad about speaking my truth and living authentically and have tried to water myself down as a result, but I’m not here to be watered down. I’m here to help people figure out who they are.
What is at the core of your being? Who were you before you were taught to judge yourself? What interests have you pushed aside for fear of looking strange to others? What do you stand for? What do you believe in? What are you afraid of losing? Who are you?
I’m asking a lot of questions but it’s not me who needs the answer. You may be intimidated by these questions and feel the need to run, and it’s entirely your choice as to whether or not you walk away without second thought or if you choose to stay and explore yourself. Ultimately, I am writing this because I want to help you be as sure of yourself as I am of myself. I want to help you be happy, I want to help you enjoy your life everyday and stop swimming around in circles getting bored and frustrated. I want to help you stop seeking approval from those who just simply aren’t good friends or partners for you. I want to help you feel valued and confident. I want to help you know your place and purpose in this world. There is no such thing as a lost cause.