Things I’ve learned in my first week of uni
Moving away has been the best thing I’ve done so far. The impact of moving to a city from a small town is so forceful and I didn’t really think about it too much before I did it. I think when I’m in self preservation mode I just sort of get on with things and deal with it later.
It changes you so much in such a short span of time.
I live in halls in a flat of 10, I moved from the south (suffolk) to the north (Sheffield). My flatmates and I are all pretty chatty, we were in a group chat for about 4/5 months before moving in so we all knew each other enough for it to not be awkward when moving in.
By the end of night 1 the ice was fully broken and we spend a lot of our time out and about or just chatting shit on the sofa for hours on end. We’re good friends, I’m lucky.
When you go through big change, you live it- you familiarise yourself with it- and then you have to eventually integrate it.
For the first week, we were just living it. In the day, we go for walks and run errands and get our bearings.
In the night we chat and socialise.
We have seminars and lectures now, education is kicking in and we are joining societies. So this is the part where you go “okay I’m here let’s deal with this”, let’s start grounding in this new life.
Uni is strange because for me at least, I’m living between two completely different atmospheres. Small town big city. Family and new friends.
The only thing that stays stable is me and my sense of self.
If I were 18 and I didn’t know myself, this would be a lot harder than it is because I wouldn’t have the emotional intelligence to process the change I’m living. As a 21 year old (this is based off my own growth and not anyone else’s) I see this as the one opportunity where everything is available to me and will come to me easy.
The ability to learn, join societies, develop my life. The ability to break out of my shell.
In meeting so many new people I’ve been told I come across a lot warmer in person. In my head I stay the same all the time, but in seeing my reflection through other people’s perception of me it’s got me thinking.
When you’re alone, you can be really sad and isolated. The only time people see you is when you’re actively trying to connect with the outside world through social media.
I was very isolated. My personal life has been quite heavy, I was very much taking on a lot of different roles.
I was working, trying really hard to break out, surrounded by news and an atmosphere that didn’t facilitate my growth at all.
Because I felt limited in my impact things affected me more, I felt small so I had to force big change through my work and what I do.
Well now, everyday is a big deal. I’m surrounded by new people everyday, I grow and learn everyday. So I feel that being is enough. I make change by existing. I don’t need to push and get so frustrated.
And I’m at peace because I learn so much from everyone around me, in terms of what they study and where they’ve come from/ who they are.
Their stories and interests which may not mean much to them helps me to grow. That’s what I mean when I say being is enough.
I think the lesson I’ve learned is that if you feel you have to be forceful, it’s time to switch your life up. Because we aren’t on this planet to be sucked in to absolutely every struggle, we aren’t obliged to feel it all.
We can have an open mind and take on different perspectives, it won’t hurt anyone.
The only time you seem stupid is when you act zealous.
In my eyes, learning to peacefully coexist in a world of such diversity and opinions is one of the most valuable lessons you can probably learn. Maybe that’s because I’ve found it such a struggle.
I’ve also noticed that you have an opportunity to see yourself reflected through the eyes of everyone you meet.
If you’re open, if you’re certain of your impact and ability to stabilise a room- you’ll be at peace no matter what comes out a persons mouth. You are a powerful being and your inner stability greatly affects a room.
If you have unresolved insecurities or repressed emotions, if you feel unheard or misunderstood and insignificant- you may become anxious or reactive and that is natural.
The way you react to things tells you everything about yourself. And you are the only person you can change to find peace in the world. Focus placed elsewhere is kind of misplaced, you end up projecting as opposed to making change which ultimately is what we want to do.
If you are at a point in life where you know change is needed and you have to move on, you will thrive.
The most authentic person in the room is the most comfortable. I read that somewhere but it is entirely true.
I have moments every now and then where I feel a slight odd feeling, having left my support network behind. But I keep reminding myself that everyone is still there. I’ll see them when I go back to live home for months at a time during the holidays.
I think that emotion is sent to show me that it’s time to find new mentors and a new network here. I’ve got people to meet and things to do.
This blog may be long or short- I’m not sure because I haven’t read through it.
I’m also pretty sure I’m changing my course from journalism to sociology or something. I have to do a foundation year where I study time and humanities and social sciences, which frankly brings me more peace and freedom.
Just thought I’d sprinkle that in there.