Caroline’s Law

I am not going to speak on this woman’s death on a subjective level. It has nothing to do with me. I did not know her, I was not connected to her, it is not my business. 

But I will speak on the controversy it has caused. Because what the death of this celebrity has unveiled is an uproar of blame and hysteria. Blame and hysteria stemming from multiple factors in Caroline’s suicide which people can relate to. 

These are the problems to focus on. Not Caroline, not the personal details that we will never know- but what it represents. 

The news sources that exist today are blood thirsty savages in the name of clout. 

That is why I am trying to get into journalism. 

There is so much noise in this world. So much noise, so much attention seeking behaviour.

New wave journalism is a generation of truth seekers with pure intentions trying to take the wheel. 

In becoming a journalist I want to lie unbiased facts on the table (as best I can) so that people can connect to truth, and expand their awareness without becoming drained, reactive and hysterical. 

My intent in writing this is to shift your focus. 

People are many things. Don’t focus on people, especially once they have passed. Focus on what is left. 

There were more than one factors contributing to this death. 

Stop hysterically flailing your pointing fingers, stop blaming, just stop reacting- and listen to the problems. 

If you feel strongly about this it’s because you partially feed into it. 

I am not blaming you in saying that- I am stating a fact. 

If you want to shape the society we live in, start by asking yourself what part you play in it. 

Here are the three main factors I can identify.

1. Outdated journalism and harassment 

2. Cancel culture and the blame game

3. People not knowing how to deal with the repercussions of things they have done. 

I will speak on all of these issues one by one. 

1. Outdated journalism and harassment 

Love Island has 2.9 million viewers this year. An “innocent” act that is normalised and that seemingly everyone engages in. I’m not blaming you viewers. But I’m saying that by investing your energy,your time, your opinions into this show you are becoming addicted to the same energy that The Sun, The Daily Mail, and morning television uses to ruin these TV personalities’ lives.

It is time to break the pattern.

What is it that you like about love Island? Because that show is not about finding love. It’s a show with little to no morals. People say that the show is safe, but is it safe if the outside world are known to respond the way they do? 

No amount of precaution or debriefing can prepare a person for what will come after love island if the public did not enjoy their personality on TV. 

And love island is based around the most sensitive topic of being in a relationship. Mixed feelings and opinions about what is ‘normal’, what is ‘good treatment’, what counts as handling something ‘well’. People will obviously become attached to this show because it hits so close to home, and that is when people become bullies.

To me, it is reminiscent of Jeremy Kyle. 

Until that show got cancelled it was a fan favourite, yet it was disgusting. 

Look back on it now, and you will wonder how it was ever allowed. 

Love island is the same principle in a different way. 

Because you are so attached to these people and how you can relate to them, outdated journalism will see that and react to it by papping them. Talking about them. Hounding them. 

That’s on them. But they can still do it because it’s being fed into. 

If you want unbiased truth, read my work. If you want to know the truth about love, how to feel, how to connect- read the work of people like me.

Read Assange’s work. Put your focus on freeing him. Just care about something.

If you want entertainment- find it elsewhere. This type of media feeds off of people’s souls. If you want change, recognise that you (and I) are playing a part in the problem.  

2. Cancel culture and the blame game

I don’t think I could possibly sum this up better than Barack Obama, but I will elaborate on what he said. 

In bringing this up, I am not talking about Caroline Flack. 

I am talking about the genuinely sickening scenes I witnessed on morning television, and in newspaper headlines, and on my timeline the next day. 

All people knew the day after Caroline’s death was blame. 

No time to process. No time to contemplate. 

Just reaction.

This was an incredibly complex suicide. But people tried to oversimplify. They reacted publically almost immediately. 

A headline from the daily mail said 

“Shock and grief for Caroline Flack, the troubled romantic who never did find true love”.

Is this really her legacy?

Is this really the truth? Is this the best way of reporting the matter in it’s entirety? Is it their business?

People on morning television were blaming CPS and the police investigation she was under. 

 *The CPS pursued an abuse charge against the domestic abuse Flack committed when the victim did not want them to. 

This is because of the policy of the CPS- victims almost never want to press charges but this policy is to ensure the safety of those who have been abused. 

This policy has protected thousands of women and children.

People on twitter were calling out everybody else on twitter for harassing her, judging her, calling her names, being ‘unkind’. 

It was so much noise for something we are all so uneducated on. 

A week before Flack’s death an article was released saying she was in a “dark” place. 

This article was quote tweeted with a joke about her being in a dark place because she is an abuser. 

This tweet went viral, and once she died a week later- everybody wanted to act all high and mighty about how we all had ought to be kinder and more woke. 

When you see no death, you are happy to engage. 

In two weeks, those of you hounding The Sun for their harassment will be tweeting about people on Love Island and harshly judging their actions. 

When the next similar misreported case comes out, you’ll be quote tweeting the next Johnny Depp character cancelling an innocent celebrity. 

If it’s not our business, why do we allow ourselves to be sucked in?

Can we not keep our reactions in our own conduct?

Russell Brand has radically transformed his outlook on life and yet he is still tormented everyday by people who want to keep him in a cage of his past. 

Demi Lovato is a reformed addict who is still harassed with jokes about her addiction. 

These are people who did not necessarily ruin another person’s life, but even in recovering from the things they did- they are harassed for their past. 

The projection we put on stories we can relate to is toxic. The involvement we choose to give to these stories is what’s toxic. 

And just to put it out there, male rapper xxxTentacion (who also faced allegations of domestic abuse) was murdered. The same people outwardly celebrating his death were grieving Flack’s.  

So what is that? 

3. People not knowing how to deal with the repercussions of things they have done. 

Weinstein, R. Kelly, people on that list have had articles published about them explaining that their lives have been “ruined” by the harmful things they did behind closed doors coming to light. 

When you do something harmful that comes to light, you lose some things. 

Such as an influential career in the public eye. 

When a person has recognised that they have done wrong, and their lives as they know it have ended- this is where the media need to let sleeping dogs lie. 

Cancel culture should not be constantly tweeting about why a person should be cancelled, it should be complete detachment. 

This was done and now it is no more. 

We do not want updates. 

We do not want to see what happens. We want to become detached. 

Flack was a person that did wrong, and their position as an influencer was stripped from them. They recognised that what they did was wrong. 

They were forced to see the truth. 

The problem is that we (the media) did not leave it there as we should have. 

The media did not detach. 

The media wanted to feed off it and create more reactions which we as a society fed into (see point 1 and 2) and that was too much for Flack to deal with. 


So she wanted to disappear. Understandable. 

So she did. 

I say her name not because I am speaking about her as a person but as a case study of a problem in society. 

I don’t want to say her name for any ulterior motive, only to expose facts. 

The media did not kill her for exposing facts, but I’m sure they played a part in her suicide when they continued to write about how she was in a ‘bad place’ as if that bared any relevance. 

If you really want to create change, consciously decide on where to put your focus.

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