We live in a world of duality
You can focus on the good or the bad.
You can focus on what people learn/ how they grow and evolve from a bad experience, or you can focus on how traumatic the experience was.
Acknowledgement of both sides is necessary.
Having an open mind is probably the most valuable thing a person can have, and it is the key to living a peaceful life.
But ultimately, an open mind still requires an area of focus.
You can know all the options and choose a place to focus on.
So which area of focus serves you best?
There is no right or wrong answer.
Just in this moment here and now, which way of thinking aligns with how you want to feel and how you want to live?
In this world there is equal and opposite.
I have written about it before.
Some countries have handled the coronavirus with only 6 deaths, some leaders have undergone a paycut alongside the majority of their population who were furloughed.
Other countries have ignored the problem and had record breaking death tolls, while stirring up hysteria in their country by allowing any old journalism to get out and grip peoples inner narratives.
Some people think for themselves.
Some people do not know what their inner voice even sounds like.
But we live in a world of equal and opposite.
We could not have one without the other.
The other shows us what it is like to have one.
So while acknowledging the problems in the world; the injustices, the hostility, the grief- I’ll present to you a question.
What good is coming from this?
What are people learning?
On a wide scale, how is society restructuring?
On a small scale, what have you discovered about yourself? What are you passionate about? How big is your capacity to love?
What do the other countries teach us? What do we teach other countries?
You can control the following things:
- Your attitude
- Your consumption of the outside world (turning off the news)
- Finding fun/ peaceful things to do
- Limiting your social media
- The people you surround yourself with
- Your own social distancing
- How you follow the guidelines
You cannot control:
- Other people’s actions
- The way others react to this pandemic
- How long it will last
- Other peoples motives
- Predicting what will happen
- The amount of people bulk buying
So if you focus on what you can control- you will become peaceful, and therefore more influential.
It is a really crazy time right now, you don’t need to be told that. You already know it.
So now is the time to find your centre.
In a world full of noise it is so easy to become aggravated and upset and generally overwhelmed.
It is so easy to confuse your own emotions with the fault of others. It’s so easy to judge and to call out a witch hunt on people you know nothing about- simply because you are emotional and don’t know what to do with that emotion.
Please stop looking out your window and judging the people who walk by. Just for the sake of your own sanity. You don’t know them. You don’t know their life. You have made up a story in your head about who they are.
And as the opposite of that please stop advertising the fact that you are keeping to the rules and setting an example because for as long as an example has an air of hostility about it, people will not listen.
Instead, ask yourself why you feel as though you need everyone to know that you are keeping to the rules.
Ask yourself that on a deeper level.
You only know you and what you are feeling. What you are missing and what you are going through.
So pay attention to that and explore it. Because you won’t change anything by looking outside your window in frustration. When you look inside you will genuinely be surprised to notice the changes that begin happening around you.
I’ll link some posts below that I think are relevant if you’d like some more words of comfort.